7 Lies About Motherhood

7 Lies About Motherhood

I am not a “baby person” just like I am not your typical “dog person”. I like my baby and other select babies just like I like my dogs and other select dogs. So please don’t be offended if I don’t ask to hold your tiny humans or pet your canine.


We intentionally waited 6 years to start having babies. We very much believe that was God’s timing for us and thus were Spirit-led in our decision to start having children.


To be totally honest, my heart was not ready to have children when we first got married. So much of what I had seen portrayed about motherhood by my generation deterred me.  But I KNEW deep down in my soul that God designed motherhood to be GOOD, even glorious really, so if I was going to have what HE designed rather than settling for what I saw around me, I had to renew my mind and confront the lies.

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How to Find Good Friends

How to Find Good Friends

I am not talking about qualities that qualify someone to receive your kindness. As Christ followers, we should be kind to all. But we should be wise and use discretion in who we allow to be our good FRIENDS: people that we allow to know intimate or even semi-intimate details of our lives. People that we actually spend serious time with and for. We need discretion in this area for two main reasons: One, because we are called to “guard our hearts above all else, for from it flows the wellspring of life.” Prov 4:23. And two because friendships are something that should be cultivated, not just something that happens.

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How to Be a Good Friend

How to Be a Good Friend

Good friendships are a thing to treasure. They are NOT a “dime a dozen” thing, and that’s really ok! We don’t really have time to spend an hour on the phone with 97 different people every week.

One of the most common questions that I hear regarding friendship is “how to find good friends” and we will cover that. But here is the biggest factor in finding good friends:

 

To find a good friend, you first have to BE a good friend.

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Why Do You Need Friends?

Why Do You Need Friends?

"A friend loves at all times and a brother is born for adversity." Proverbs 17:17

 

I know this verse by heart, (although I always have to look up where it is found exactly) partly because my Jesus lovin’ Mama made us read a proverb a day out loud on the way to school growing up. And partly because good friendships and close family relationships have ALWAYS been important to me. 

 

I remember praying for godly friends even from a young age. I specifically prayed that God would “bless, create, and heal the relationships that He wanted me to have.”

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How to Lead Without Being Bossy Part 2

How to Lead Without Being Bossy Part 2
“He who thinks he leads, and has no one following, is really only taking a walk.”
– (adapted from a John Maxwell quote)

 

This is truly one of my favorite leadership quotes ever. As someone who can tend to get pretty bossy easily, I often have to double check myself to see if anyone is actually following my leadership or if I am just out on a walk by my lonesome.

Just because you or I have been appointed to lead or boss people around does NOT mean that they will want to follow us.

So here are some tips about leading and influencing people. I firmly believe that as a Christian we are all called to lead others to Christ in some capacity. And if you haven’t yet read part one of this, go check it out. It will help all of this make more sense and benefit you more.  

1.   Your heart should ultimately be to serve.

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How to Lead Without Being Bossy Part 1

How to Lead Without Being Bossy Part 1

Having “leadership skills” instead of just being plain ol’ bossy has not always been my forte (read: I occasionally still step into bossy pants mode accidentally)”. Being bossy comes REALLY naturally to me. I am the oldest. The oldest sibling, the oldest cousin, even one of the oldest of all my extended cousins. I was born bossy. For some of us, taking charge or feeling like a leader comes more naturally.

“If we are Christians, we are called to lead others to Christ. So we are all leaders.”
 ~Christine Caine.

Whether we FEEL like we have a knack for leadership is not the question. The question is: How can we best use our gifts to lead others to Christ, to make disciples of all. As a Christian, we are called to be leaders. Period. Taking the lead comes easily for me, but that doesn’t mean that I have always lead in the right direction, done it well, or don’t need to grow in my abilities. 

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Green Tidings: A Natural Deodorant That Actually Works

Green Tidings: A Natural Deodorant That Actually Works

In our journey to use healthy products in and on our bodies, some things have been easier to swap out than others. One of the hardest things for me to switch over was my deodorant. I have always been really good at sweating. What can I say, it’s a skill.

 

When I played sports in high school, I distinctly remember buying stronger and stronger deodorant because my old stuff “wasn’t working” to keep me from sweating. Hearing that the aluminum is what helped me not sweat, I started choosing deodorants with higher and higher aluminum content. Dumb move, kid. Dumb move.

 

Oh how I wish that I had known then what I know now about deodorant. Hindsight is 20/20 though isn’t it?

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How To Find Great Romance

How To Find Great Romance

Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays where there is not a whole lot of neutral ground.

No really, think about it. Most people either love the holiday or hate it.

 

I must confess, that I have gone through quite the gamut of emotions regarding the cards and flowers holiday. Growing up it was always a celebration. One of my parents’ top love languages is gifts, so we usually woke up to cards and some form of candy. It wasn’t extravagant, but we always felt celebrated and like it was a special day.

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How To Achieve Your Goals Every Single Time

How To Achieve Your Goals Every Single Time

Ok. Maybe not EVERY time because we are imperfect and sometimes life just happens. BUT you can be way more successful than you’ve been in the past.

Y’all. I get it. A brand spankin, shiny new year rolls around and you feel so fresh stepping into it. A fresh start is ALWAYS a nice start. All your pals are making these grandiose resolutions and you’ve often done it yourself. But when you REALLY reflect, you think “dang, I sucked at keeping my resolutions last year.” But this year does NOT have to be a repeat of last year, and the year before that, and the one before that….

But here’s the truth. MOST people, as in 90% will FAIL at their New Year’s resolutions. Why? Because habits are hard to change. It takes WORK to change bad or unproductive habits and in most cases, people are setting resolutions the wrong way. But it IS possible. You CAN change. You CAN do the things that you are called and created to do.

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Before You Make Resolutions This Year...

Before You Make Resolutions This Year...

I love the mountains. There is something wild and glorious and wonderful in them. It sings to me, calls to me, speaks to a part of me that nothing else quite matches.

Nearly every photo I see of the mountains does something for my soul, simultaneously quenching and igniting a hunger. I miss the mountains when I am away from them. I crave their rugged and majestic beauty. 

Yet even when I am surrounded by rocky mountain wilderness, absolutely immersed in their beauty, I still sense that something is missing. Something is still not quite as it should be.

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