To The One Who Is Grieving

To The One Who Is Grieving

Grieving is one of those things that nobody really wants to be good at. Because if you are good at grieving, it means that you’ve gone through some loss in your life. I am NOT a “grief expert.” I have, however grieved enough in my life to have learned how to do it fairly well. I have walked with friends through losses and seen grief that is effective and grief that is not. 

This is NOT an article on the psychological stages of grief. This is instead, if you will, some loving advice from a heart that has grieved and healed (and is still healing) and learned. This is encouragement from my heart to yours to help you heal, grow, and draw closer to your Father’s heart in the midst of sorrow. 

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How to Avoid Discouragement When You Have a Crappy Day

How to Avoid Discouragement When You Have a Crappy Day

The other day I was having kind of a rough morning. The kid woke me up in the night for no apparent reason, so I was running low on sleep (which if you know me, you know makes a BIG difference).

 Because of that my whole morning routine was messed up. I decided to sleep in and missed my morning workout, didn’t have solid quiet time before the kiddo got up for real, several of my daily goals we already shot and overall I just felt really “blah”.

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10 Things That Will Keep You From Reaching Your Goals

10 Things That Will Keep You From Reaching Your Goals

If I could sit down and have a cup of coffee with all of you, chances are good that we might end up talking about your goals. It’s really one of my favorite things to learn about a person! (And not just because I’m nosey, lol!) I truly believe that we will be most fulfilled and effective in what WE are called to do in this life when we are actively pursuing our God given dreams and goals.In our love for goal setting and achieving, its something that we have read, watched, studied, and meditated on a LOT! 

 

Here are the top 10 things we’ve found (some of which we’ve learned the hard way) that will keep you from reaching your goals:

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5 Questions to Ask Yourself Each Year

5 Questions to Ask Yourself Each Year

“an unexamined life is not worth living” ~Plato

 

For years I have loved this quote, and honestly, I think that making a habit of reflecting and re-evaluating has been crucial to our personal development and spiritual growth. It’s hard to grow or meet goals without reflecting and evaluating.

 

As we close out the year and prepare for a new year, here are some great questions to ask yourself, journal about, and even discuss with your inner circle peeps. Oftentimes, they will see an area of strength or weaknesses that we might not otherwise catch.

 

Remember to do this with a posture of mercy, grace and humility. God’s first response to our mistakes is mercy. If you’ve done really poorly in an area, repent, ask for God’s grace to help you do better, get up and go on. If you have done great in an area, Praise God for his help there and make sure to keep a teachable and pliable attitude. God is even more invested in your growth than you are, and He is committed to see it through to the finish. Also know that God longs to speak to you through His Holy Spirit, our counselor. He longs to give you encouragement, correction, direction, and strength. 

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Is it Possible to Actually Enjoy the Holidays?

Is it Possible to Actually Enjoy the Holidays?

IT’S ALMOST CHRISTMAS!!!!!! AHHHHHHH!!!! I’m SOOO excited! I LOVE Christmas. I love the expectation leading up to it! I love giving meaningful gifts to people I love. I love the lingering celebration after Christmas. I love the hope and big dreams that surround the beginning of a new year. I love spending extra time with family, yelling over card games, playing board games around the family table until my backside can’t handle the hard kitchen chairs anymore. I LOVE the holidays. 

 

But I will be the first to admit, that there have been times when all of the doing and expectations just flat stole the joy of the season. What is meant to be a joyous celebration of the Savior coming to rescue a lost and dying world, can easy turn into a stressful even grief-filled time. Allow me to share the things that we have learned/are trying to intentionally do that have helped us to actually ENJOY the holidays.

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How To Handle A Crisis in a Healthy Way

How To Handle A Crisis in a Healthy Way

This last year has been hard. Good, but hard. More than once I’ve looked at Nate and asked “are we done with war yet? Is it time for Disneyland yet?” (our analogy for easy peasy times).

 

As much as I wanted to ignore it, the Holy Spirit told me that a time of warfare was coming and to prepare. Thankfully I listened, mostly. Not quite as well as I wish I had though. 

 

Among the hard things we’ve gone through this year either ourselves or with our friends, was nearly 2 weeks total in the hospital with our baby girl.

 

I’ll not bore you with medical details, but know this, she is totally healed!

There are no ongoing issues or permanent damage. Praise God! 

 

The first hospital stay was NOT planned. The second was. And while I will be the first to say that hospitals are NOT my favorite place in the world, I will tell you that I am thankful for them.

And just like any other place, it IS possible to be a carrier of the presence and peace and joy of God while you are there. 

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10 Tips For Thriving After Graduation

10 Tips For Thriving After Graduation

We just finished off a VERY busy graduation season over here. In fact, this year several of “my girls” from youth group are graduated from high school.

I remember being so stressed before and after I graduated high school.

What was I going to do next????

I swear, everyone AND their Mama and their Mama’s Mama asked me “well what are you going to do now?”

I remember thinking, “I DON’T KNOWWWWWWW. But would you please stop asking me”

Of course, I couldn’t admit that very much publically.

What WAS I going to do now? Now I had a choice? No one was telling me exactly what to do. What if I made the WRONG choice? What if I went to the WRONG college? What if I hated it? What if I sucked at it? What if I couldn’t make any friends??? What if…..?

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How to Find Good Friends

How to Find Good Friends

I am not talking about qualities that qualify someone to receive your kindness. As Christ followers, we should be kind to all. But we should be wise and use discretion in who we allow to be our good FRIENDS: people that we allow to know intimate or even semi-intimate details of our lives. People that we actually spend serious time with and for. We need discretion in this area for two main reasons: One, because we are called to “guard our hearts above all else, for from it flows the wellspring of life.” Prov 4:23. And two because friendships are something that should be cultivated, not just something that happens.

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